Category: motivation

No dude. You are the one who really freaked me out.

We all have our own version of reality. Most of us can comprehend that other people have their viewpoints, but it’s our version that matters.

I’m trying to focus on me, but when I hit the box I still look around at my “competition.” Whether they know they are my competition is irrelevant. They are there, and I am there. Therefore…. It’s my way of both motivating myself and succumbing to my ever present anxiety. Am I good enough? Do I belong?

The other day it was brought to my attention that others feel differently.

General pre-class discussion with a guy who’s been at the box for almost a year. I only know this because he told me. I’m not that aware. We started talking about what it felt like coming in the first time after on-ramp and actually hitting a class. I brought up that it can be intimidating, and he readily agreed.

me: “Oh yeah, watching xxx and yyy throwdown is intense. I don’t know how they can move that much weight that fast.”
him: “No dude. They didn’t freak me out. You are the one who really freaked me out.

What the fuck? Me? Why me?

Turns out during his first week of regular classes I was talking with a fellow silverback, and this guy overheard us talking about being old, almost out of the 45-49 age group and into the 50+ group, and our usual complaints about trying to hang with the young guys.

Then we hit the WOD. He remembered it was a moderate deadlift/running WOD. That just happens to be my wheelhouse, and I pretty much shredded him. I remember the WOD well. It’s one of my favorites. 21-18-15-12-9 225# deads with 400m run in between each set.

He told me his thought was, “if this dude is almost 50 and can kick my ass like that, what the fuck am I even doing here?”

It also motivated him to push harder.

I love these realizations. Not because it reminds me that I do have some skills. OK, partially that…. but more because it’s a good reminder that we all impact others, and our insecurities are just that – ours.

Enjoy the day. You are probably inspiring someone right now.

Feast or Famine…. Win or Fail….. Setbacks and Progress… Welcome to CrossFit

One second I’m frustrated at my progress, struggling to make time for the gym, fighting tooth and nail to drive work initiatives, basically just feeling the struggle.

The next second I break out my jumprope and get a new PR for consecutive Double-Unders. 30. Then I repeated it.



New rope may have been a motivating factor (RPM Fitness… wasn’t happy with my Rx Smart Gear rope). Then again, maybe the new rope was what I needed mechanically.

WOD was interesting

6 rounds
2 Deficit Deadlifts – heavy
1 minute rest
2 minutes of Double Unders

I’ve never done deficit deads before, so this was a new experience. Went pretty light at 275#. Wasn’t sure how my hip range of motion would be impacted with the deficit. Only used 25# bumper plates for the deficit. No need to get crazy the first time around.

Haven’t been practicing DUs for a long time, so this was TOTALLY out of the blue. I’ll take it though!

Did skip the last set of DUs in the WOD. Both patella tendons were screaming at me from the previous jumping.

My body is so messed up.

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Someone out there is looking at you for #crossfit #motivation

Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our own challenges.

“I’ve been stuck at 195#’s for my clean for MONTHS!!!!! When am I going to get 200? Shit, my teammate just nailed 275#!!!!”
“I can only get 10 double unders in a row. When will I be like [that guy] who can knock out 50 consecutive fucking DUs in a row?”
Never forget that there is someone, maybe just one person, maybe a few people, who are looking at you and saying, “Wow – he just power cleaned 135# for reps…. and from the hang. When will I ever get there?”
Think I’m lying? Think you are the only person in the entire world who looks at others? Think that nobody could possibly be looking at you?
Most of the time I think that way, but some days there is a reminder that we exist within society and there might just be someone looking to you for a bit of stoke.
Kid at the box. Built like a fireplug. Squats 2x what I do. Moves weight so much faster than I do. Of course he can’t run for shit, but…. I’ve tried to say hi a couple of times. No big. Just, “hi.” He always shies away. Figured he didn’t like me. No big. There’s a lot of people who don’t.
Post WOD the other day, I’m heading out. He’s doing rope climbs. Sees me and says, “Good to see you back Ron. Didn’t know how long you’d be out for. Missed chasing you in the run WODs.”
I didn’t realize he even know my name or that I was out for several months. It’s always a back and forth. He moves the weight faster than I can even hope to do. I pass him on the 400s. Turns out he noticed that too.
Who knew?

I am not a guru.

Couple of thoughts to answer a few questions that have come this way.

Are you a coach?
Are you a trainer?
Are you trying to get traffic on your blog to sell something?

Nope. I’m none of that. I’m a man who uses this space to stay motivated. That’s really it.

I read an article the other day about “Writing Your Way to Happiness.” Maybe I’m jaded, but I’ve always found that the BEST articles and books start with a premise that I already happen to agree with. You know – if you agree with me then you are probably pretty smart. And, by “me,” I mean the royal “me.” This article quoted some studies that showed a simple concept. People feel better when they write their personal narrative. For some folks it’s a gratitude journal – i.e. write what we are grateful for, and that helps us remember that there are good things going on. It’s way too easy to forget the good and focus on the negative.

I’m not looking to start a fitness movement or invent a fitness sub-genre that caters to mFitness Guru Jack LaLanne Portrait Sessioniddle-aged guys who have careers and families and still do what it takes to make time to workout.  I am looking to document my path. Jack LaLanne started a fitness revolution, and he kept with it. Clearly it was core to who he was. Me? I’m just addicted to exercise.

It’s a bit of a personal accountability program. If I write about my workouts then I am committed to….show up and do the workout. When I was a triathlete I was much more likely to do a workout when I had committed to a friend that I would be there. Same thing here in an e-friend sort of way.

I’m not a coach. I have no certifications. I have no plans to get my L1.

What I hope is that my journey has some relevance to other people. Maybe you get a spark from one of my workouts. Maybe I get a spark from one of my rants. Maybe I just feel better typing out my personal narrative (see above).

That’s a lot of “maybe’s,” but it’s also where I’m coming from.

To answer that last question? Heck – I don’t even have advertising on my stuff. That would be a really poor job of selling without any form of store or ads….

Fear….. is awesome

How to live without fear
Getting past fear
The only thing we have to fear is fear itself

Google search terms and a memorable quote from a guy who got us to the moon. What do they have in common? They are all wrong.

Fear totally rocks. Not the mind-numbing, paralyzing type of fear one would feel in a horrific situation (I’ll let you pick the situation). I’m talking about the fear of the unknown or the fear of failure.

Why is fear good? If we didn’t have a “fear of failure” then failure would be common, easy, simple. In truth – failure is a good thing too, but fearing failure is what drives us to do the work required to get things right. If we didn’t fear standing on the edge of a cliff we’d probably lean way too far over the face where gravity would take over. We wouldn’t get nervous. Our “second sense’ wouldn’t remind us to pay close attention to our surroundings.

It’s not about eliminating fear. It’s about using it to our advantage. I have a certain dread, concern, nee’ fear of doing a CrossFit competition as a solo competitor. As part of a team I have to work hard as hell, but solo means it’s only me out there. No support from teammates. Nobody to pick up the slack if I bonk. That’s a bit scary.

I know that I want to do it because it is scary. It’s a challenge. Conversely, I have absolutely no fear about completing a marathon. I have done them. They are 26.2 miles long. If things go wrong I know that I can always cover the distance. Having a really crappy bike ride at IronMan Canada and then walking the majority of the marathon convinced me of this.

I might not surpass my goal times, but I know I can walk 26.2 miles if it comes down to it. Because of that I have no desire to do another marathon. Please note – this is only my viewpoint based on my athletic history as a runner. At one point I did have concerns about covering 26.2, and for many people it’s a huge goal. Awesome. Go for it. Since I no longer have that specific motivator I am not at all inclined to train hard for a 26.2 mile run.

Some people can motivate themselves to do any task they set their mind to. Congratulations. I wholeheartedly support this approach and wonder if it may actually be healthier.

But I’m not that guy. I need that spark. I need that little voice in my head telling me, “you need to prepare, or you won’t succeed.”

Embrace the fear.

What scares you?