Tag: life

Can sexual assault be stopped? No. No it can't be stopped

Wife gets Stanford’s alumni magazine. She’s an alum, M. Ed. (because she was OK with attending a Junior University…. you can guess where I went).

Cover story this month asks if sexual assault can be “stopped.”

As much as I abhor any sexual assault crime I wonder if we are asking the right question. No offense intended, but in any population group there will always be people who, quite frankly, suck. They seek to intimidate, attack, use, destroy other people. As long as there are people there will be crime’s against people.

I’d like to see sexual assault be eradicated completely, but I don’t believe in humanity’s goodness enough to think that’s reasonable. I do, however, think it’s possible that there are other goals that, while somewhat lofty, could be reasonable. How about, “Can all sexual assaults be reported?” Hey, solid stats about how many assaults take place along with solid stats about where and when? That would be some great stuff to know. Sure “all” is too much, but “reported” beats “stopped” in terms of achievable goals? Doesn’t it?

Or maybe it’s “Can we create a society where women feel safe?” That would be a great start. Sure, women feel safe in some locations, but imagine if women felt safe just about anywhere. Wow, wouldn’t that be incredible? I’m a pretty unassuming, grey haired dude, but when it’s late at night and I’m behind a woman on a sidewalk I can see when they reach for the comfort of their pepper spray. Just in case. I get it. They don’t know who the heck I am. Usually I will fall back quite a distance or say, “Excuse me” and walk faster, but the important bit is that dark and alone = unsafe. Imagine if that changed for the better.

Sure, headlines drive interest. I just think that a goal of eradicating a crime that has existed since… well, since humanity, is …. just not realistic.

I have two daughters. I’d love for them to grow up in a peaceful, safe world. I don’t think that will happen, but I do think that shaming people who are attack.

Deviating from my normal CrossFit stuff and ranting a bit because I believe that things can be better. Things need to be better. My $0.02 – the best way to get better is to set achievable goals and then exceed them.

To give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift

Pre.

Is your switch On or Off? …. beast mode, digging deep, additional effort

WOD on Saturday was Team Angie [100-50-25 reps of pull-ups, push-ups, sit-ups and air squats]. If you finished before 23 minutes you added in a 100cal ride on an Air Assault bike.

I explained the WOD after getting home, and my wife asked, “Wait. Do I understand this correctly? If you finish early you have to do MORE work?”

Me: “Yes Dear” (trust me, I know how to say “Yes, Dear”), “that’s how it works. Actually, getting to the extra work is a goal.”
Wife: “I’d plan on being done at 23 minutes and 1 second….”

10 If “finish time < time cap”
20 Then reward = “do more work”

So, where do you fit into this equation? Are you the “earn the right to do more work” type or are you the “do the workout – it’s already hard enough” type?

Granted, the question has a different answer for every workout, but let’s apply on-off light switchit generally. Who are you? When you get to the gym are you looking to maintain your fitness, which is a great goal, or are you looking to kick it up a notch?

There are a lot of terms and bro-science about working out and going hard. Some people like to call it “Beast Mode.” I like to think of it as a switch in our brain that we have to subconsciously turn ON. Sometimes you start the workout with your switch in the OFF position. Sure, you are working hard, but you aren’t necessarily digging deep. Then, at some point, you “throw the switch.” Good enough is no longer good enough. You need to go faster. You won’t drop the bar until you get another 3 reps… I’m not talking setting a Personal Record (PR) every time you do Fran. PR’s are rare, amazing but rare. Feeling good walking out of the gym knowing you gave your best effort is more realistic than basing your life on setting PR’s every day.

The challenge I have is understanding HOW to throw that switch on demand.

What is it that drives us to go from static to dynamic? Is it Beast Mode, or is that something else entirely?

Somedays it is so easy to go deep into that pain cave and almost surprise ourselves with the workload we can produce. Other days it’s like the circuit breaker has tripped and not matter what you do the switch just won’t flip.

I do know that it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more times I throw that switch, the better shape I’m in, the easier it is to “go there.” If I am out of shape, like now because of surgery recovery, it’s so much harder to get that switch to flip-up and drive my soul.

What position is your switch in, and can you turn it on whenever you want to?

 

My To-Do list this weekend (and every weekend)

  • cook bacon
  • fold and put away laundry
  • bake egg muffins
  • make meals for the week

every single weekend. Always the same basic stuff.

Once, just once, I want a DIFFERENT weekend to-do list. You know.

  • have that threesome with the 2 women I met on ashleymadison
  • collect my lottery winnings
  • be 10 years younger

Seriously – is that wrong?

Just once. That’s all I’m asking. Once.

My To-Do list this weekend (and every weekend) was originally published on Getting to Rx

My To-Do list this weekend (and every weekend)

  • cook bacon
  • fold and put away laundry
  • bake egg muffins
  • make meals for the week

every single weekend. Always the same basic stuff.

Once, just once, I want a DIFFERENT weekend to-do list. You know.

  • have that threesome with the 2 women I met on ashleymadison
  • collect my lottery winnings
  • be 10 years younger

Seriously – is that wrong?

Just once. That’s all I’m asking. Once.

As the father of a 13 year old daughter i can tell you it only gets better.

define “better”

because I’m pretty sure you’re just fucking with me….. 😉

christmasabbott:

Just a fun little way to remember all the awesome moments through the year! ❤️ #2015 (at www.ChristmasAbbott.com)

Interesting idea. I thought that I’d made little to no progress in 2014 until I looked at my PR app and realized a LOT had been gained.

Anybody else uninstalling, unplugging, and reinstalling downspouts in the rain tonight?

trust me the younger of my followers…. being mature, having a house payment, cleaning up dog shit every couple of days, and doing maintenance in the rain is just as sexy and appealing as you think it is.

Really.

First big meeting… setting the stage….

It could have been a total rathole. Reviewing a product spec. Those meetings regularly devolve into multi-hour bickerfests and sentence-by-sentence-by-sentence negotiations (i.e. arguments).

Wasn’t feeling it. Totally dragging. 2 hours of sleep lethargy, and then we got through it in under an hour. Known shit-stirrer was amenable and had some really good points. Still felt like the meeting flopped.

and then got kudos from just abouteveryone present.

So I got that going for me.

Shock and Dismay – women desire sex…

Bit of back and forth with a fellow old guy here about a few young women postng/reblogging that they’d really like to get laid.

I’m just an observer on this ride…. my take…. People have had the same feelings, desires, and emotions for millions of years. There was no Tumblr available to post about, so it was less public. Just can’t bring myself to believe that people are entirely different than they were only 20 years ago.

And…. they are mainly saying “but I can’t find someone worthwhile”

The difference between our youth and today’s youth is NOT that “morals” have changed. It’s that there are ways of sharing that we didn’t have.

People are people. Always have been.